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“You Don'T Know Me” by Ben Folds featuring Regina Spektor
Featuring Regina Spektor
“You Don'T Know Me” by Ben Folds featuring Regina Spektor appears on 20 radio countdowns from 10 stations between 2008 and 2025. Its best result is #1 on the WEQX Top 102.7 of 2008. In the combined RockLists rankings it is the #61 alternative song of 2008 and #6,449 alternative song of all time.
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Ben Folds chose "You Don't Know Me" as the lead single from Way to Normal, his third studio album, in 2008, and he didn't do it alone: it's a duet with Regina Spektor. He simply phoned her and asked, and the two went in and cut it. Folds had a part mapped out for her, but he told Rolling Stone she brought plenty he hadn't planned, which was exactly what he was after, even over chords so simple they left little room to move.
The video went to the comedy team of Tim Heidecker and Eric Wareheim, who directed it and star as an unhappy couple, intercut with Folds, drummer Sam Smith and bassist Jared Reynolds performing on the grass in front of the couple's house. The song later turned up again as the fourth track on Folds' 2009 album Stems & Seeds.
Written with AI assistance from RockLists chart data, MusicBrainz and Wikipedia.
RockLists rankings
Alternative & Modern Rock
Indie & Adult Alternative
All Rock Formats
Year-end countdowns
| Year | # | Station | Countdown | of |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| 2008 | 70 | Lightning 100 Nashville, TN | Lightning 100 Top 100 Songs of 2008 | 100 |
| 2008 | 5 | WBER Rochester, NY | WBER Listener Countdown 2008 | 136 |
| 2008 | 19 | 88.3 The Sting Cleveland, OH | 88.3 The Sting WBWC Top 88 Songs of 2008 | 88 |
| 2008 | 1 | 102.7 WEQX Southern Vermont and the Capital District of New York (Albany) | WEQX Top 102.7 of 2008 | 103 |
| 2008 | 4 | WXPN Philadelphia, PA | WXPN Year in Review: Top 100 Songs of 2008 | 100 |
| 2008 | 16 | Triple J Australia (national) | Triple J Hottest 100 of 2008 | 100 |
All-time and decade countdowns
| Year | # | Station | Countdown | of |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| 2009 | 234 | WYEP | WYEP 913 Songs That Matter from the Last Decade | 913 |
| 2009 | 1888 | CD101 | CD101 Top 2010 Songs of All-Time (December 2009) | 2010 |
| 2009 | 213 | WYEP | WYEP 913 Essential Songs | 913 |
| 2009 | 470 | WXPN | WXPN 885 Desert Island Songs (2009) | 885 |
| 2010 | 1846 | CD101 | CD101 Top 2011 Songs of All-Time (December 2010) | 2011 |
| 2011 | 1924 | CD101 | CD101 Top 2012 Songs of All-Time (December 2011) | 2011 |
| 2013 | 1965 | CD101 | CD101 Top 2013 Songs of All-Time (December 2013) | 2012 |
| 2013 | 242 | WXPN | WXPN 885 Greatest Songs of the New Millennium (2013) | 885 |
| 2016 | 685 | WYEP | WYEP 913 Countdown 2016 | 913 |
| 2019 | 268 | WYEP | WYEP Big Spring Countdown 2019 | 1017 |
| 2019 | 268 | WYEP | WYEP Labor Day Weekend Countdown 2019 | 1099 |
| 2022 | 809 | 90.9 The Bridge | 90.9 The Bridge Top 909 Songs of the 2000s | 907 |
| 2025 | 287 | The Current | 893 Essential Songs of The Current: 2005 to Now | 893 |
| 2025 | 301 | WYEP | WYEP Best Songs of the 21st Century (So Far) | 714 |
Also listed as: You Don't Know Me; You Don't Know Me feat. Regina Spektor.
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